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THE POWER

OF SELF-CONFIDENCE

THE MOST SUCCESSFUL PERSONS IN LIFE ARE THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN THEIR DREAMS AND, MORE IMPORTANTLY, BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES. SELF-CONFIDENCE, AS YOU FIND OUT LATER, IS LIKE A BOX OF CHOCOLATE; LOOKS NEAT AND PRETTY ON THE OUTSIDE, BUT THE INSIDE TASTES SO MUCH BETTER!

Famous poet e. e Cummings (Ps: he preferred his name written that way) once wrote, “Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. “Self-belief or confidence has often been cited as the line difference that sets apart winners to losers; those of risk-takers to cowards; and Buzz Light-years to anxious Rex of Toy Story. But, no matter who we are, confidence is there, lying deep within us. You just need to reach out further sometimes, to late the real you come out and shine so brightly!.

Yes, it never is that easy. Strutting your stuff while walking straight-face toward the whiteboard may give you quite a hard time, to either not stutter when forced to speak up or sweat profusely without any reason. The truth is, no one likes to be peered at from head to toes without admiration, if any. Yet, one has to go and stand in front of the class occasionally. So, you had better be ready. Be no one else but you. But, put a dash of confidence on; allow it to sparkle inside out.

Wait a minute; you need more clues on how to do it? Don’t worry, my pal, here are some good tricks to boost your confidence:

1) Groom yourself and dress sharp!

Look in the mirror and tell yourself what you see. Feeling fine? Perfect? Good! If not, what do you need to do? The majority of adolescents would stick along with the saying “nobody’s perfect”. True, but that is not the end. Groom yourself and make yourself feel comfortable with the way you look. If you like your hair pulled, able with the way you look. If your hair pulled then do it! Don’t think of “no, no, everybody would think of my ridiculous…”. Instead, prioritize on how you would judge yourself and, after that, take lightly what everybody might think of.

Dressing sharp is jus as good as grooming, it can notch up your sense of self-worth. First up, you need no more clothes that actually do not suit you well. Oversize is definitely an option to avoid, and so is one plain color draping both your top and pants. Put on those wearable fittings that would get you a few head turns, but much more confidence boost. ‘Cause what you wear really defines your level of confidence.

2) Think Positive

By thinking positive, no more negative thoughts should cloud your judgment. When you walk through the university corridor, throw away the invisible monster in you that claims how un-pretty or foolish you look. Focus on the accomplishments you can achieve, and do a good preparation before facing the big moments of your study. Self-criticism usually sneaks up as the silent culprit who ruins your confidence, but, by practicing imparting good criticisms toward other and yourself, you can easily dismiss this bad character off.

Thinking positive also works with a touch of help from self-commer-cialization. It is about looking in the mirror every morning and reciting the confidence-building words to your self. Everything that lasts between 20 to 60 seconds is recommendable-preferably thos sentences with powerful, constructive adjective.

3) Get to know yourself

On some cases, confidence goes way beyond making oneself feel good in the inside. Perhaps, it is about fixing the old traumas that left a hole on your confidence rooftop. So, when troubles pour in, it is no wonder that you get drowned in anxiety. Get to know yourself, ask questions such as why and what, followed with when and how. WHY do you lack confidence when doing a presentation? WHAT do you fear the most? Is it WHEN you have to speak up in English? So, HOW are you going to resolve it?

If your soul is more complex than that, writing a daily journal to open down your thoughts is very effective. There might come times of self-discovery when you shall see better of who you really are.

4) Smile

Free, easy, and everybody has it, to smile is perhaps the instant thing you can do to gain more confidence in the eyes of any beholders. Because when you smile, most of the time one will reply in a similar manner, and hence any tension or nervousness should decrease. Smile more to your friends in a week, and you will get new best friends the week after. That simple!

5) Speak loud and clear

According to a research, people who stutter often suffer much from lack of confidence. Those who speak fast usually consider themselves less important to be heard. Speaking loud arguably reflects personal confidence and certainly in conveying a message. Clear articulation, moreover, goes best with average-pace speech-not too slow but not fast at all so that everybody can digest whatever you say.

If you want to think before you speak, take your time. But, calm yourself down when the moment to utter your mind comes. With a pull of positive thinking, you can be sure to deliver what is important loud and clear.

6) Stand tall

Good posture tells so much about a person. A slight back bend refers to lack of confidence. Reversely, standing tall with no hands covering your chest depicts not only confidence but also a welcoming posture to perhaps, greet and chat with someone. Should you feel uncomfortable to practice it impromptu amongst friends, then rehearse it at home behind mirrors. Look how cool and confident you are when standing upright and speaking up coherently. Build the habit, and let the good posture remain forever as a part of your confident look.

7) Exercise

There is no need to yap on and on about how important good exercise is. In fact, confidence can be nourished very well from great physical practice which gives you double benefits, a proportional look to fit in those tight jeans and strength to stand tall and do all tips above. The most crucial but often neglected part of exercise to boost your confident is breath-ing control. Understand your pace of respiration, and master how to relax back in times of nervousness.

8) Expand your skills and knowledge

The more things you know, the easier you interact with people. Conversation will flow smoothly, as good topics are there on the back of your mind. This can be the hardest trick to do for constructing strong confidence. You need to either read and keep tabs on whatever the latest happening is or converse more to absorb more information. If successful, you can automatically feel psyched up before meeting friends or new people. Because, to be honest, confidence is more about the brains than the beauty.