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MAKING FRIENDS ARE SOMETIMES EASY AND SOMETIMES NOT. THE REAL TEST IS WHEN YOU HAVE TO GUESS WHETHER HE OR SHE WANTS TO BE YOU FRIEND OR NOT. DON’T WORRY, ‘COZ HERE’S THE ANSWER KEY!

Kids, teenagers, adults, and elderly; everyone has their own way in expressing their feeling. You might want to scream when feeling so low at time, or just walking a little bit slumped to give hints how uninterested you are in any conversations. Much to everyone’s surprise, the research has sown that most of our feelings are expresses beyond spoken or even written form of communication. It is all in what you see and what you can perceive from it. And, mon ami, it is what everyone calls Body Language.

Yup. Think about talking one on one with your teacher .eye to eye. Hands on the table. And your test paper is on the table, with no scores written on it yet. Had you known Body Language, you can read your teacher’s mind even way before she or he utters a word. On a more serious level, what if you are approaching a new friend at school. And you hesitate whether to carry on the conversation with the (cute) boy or not, since you do not want to ruin the moment of friendship making (or more than that…). Mastering some tips of Body Language will slip you into his perception of you-whether he is into you our, sadly, the otherwise.

Now, when it comes to telling the truth, Body Language can also reveal one’s honesty. Say, you friend is talking behind your back, and you had your suspicion on her. Her answer might refuse your claims, but what she did not say can strongly offer the whole explanation. In fact, 60 up to 70 per cent of all meanings in most situation derive much from nonverbal behavior, according to non other than research.

WHEN IT COMES TO LIKING, SOMEONE WILL…

1. Have Consistent Eye Contact

Eye is said to be the window to one’s soul. Maybe yes, maybe no; but consistent eye contact of your friend to you, who is speaking, tells that she or he is listening well and also interested in you. If you want to attest your friend’s attention on you, try to move to the side while maintaining the conversation. Cross your finger, and should his or her eyes follow you still, then the result is positive! You are likeable!

2. Imitate Your Posture

In physiology, this is called mirroring. When there are only two of you and your friend, sitting oppositely and having a warm conversation, pay attention on how your counterpart behaves. Do some test and silently observe how he reacts to your gestures. First, sit relaxed, lean back, and set your hands on the table-see if your friend progressively imitates you. Move to another position, and the longer the mirroring occurs, the stronger your friendship bond is.

WHEN IT COMES TO LYING, SOMEONE WILL…

1. AVOID EYE CONTACT

Uncomfortable facing the interrogator is a common conduct gives you a strong proof that there is something wrong. Yet, a professional liar might instead push himself to maintain fake eye contact with you. That kind of eye contact shall never have the eye contact with you. That kind of eye contact well together with any facial expression. A smile, for instance, will only involve muscles directly around the mouth and leave the eyes alone.

2. BLINK EXCESSIVELY

Aside from avoiding eye contact, every person who makes up a lie or hides the truth usually blink more than the usual. It stems back to the fact that it takes more thinking process to create a whole fake scenario than just come clean and admit the truth. Blinking expresses that new information is processed and gathered. With one exception, a professional liar, according to the research, may do the otherwise, by having less blinking than the usual. Let’s just hope that you do not have to deal with the pro.

3. TOUCH THE NOSE OR THE EAR

Unconscious touch on the nose or the ear basically tells that there is something hidden. Not precisely to be a lie, but it may lead there. It is even stated that touching any parts of the face during a conversation can refer to the same meaning. However, if the touch is continued with a head tilt from side to side, this may connote boredom. Or, arms crossed across the chest actually signal that person distances himself from you or your ideas. He might want you not to read his mind. Should this occur, just do not take your ayes off his. Enjoy experimenting, my friend.